I’m around a lot of other moms these days – ones that stay home, ones that work from home, one that work full-time and everything in-between (and by work, I mean outside the home duties). Some of these are moms of newborns, some are moms that have recently adopted, some are moms of teenagers, toddlers, one kid or half a dozen, and any other combination of the above. There is one thing I’ve noticed about moms though: we are really hard on ourselves.
I raise my hand to include myself in this group as well. Hand raised REALLY high. Don’t get my wrong, I think it’s totally normal and warranted to care about the upbringing, well-being and development of our kids. We are raising human beings here! However, it can be waaaaay to easy to slide down the spiral of negativity and beating ourselves up for things at the end of the day.
I should of held my baby more today, rather than leaving her in the swing. I raised my voice at my toddler and feel bad about it. Did she really need to sit in timeout for not cleaning up her toys when I asked? I can’t believe I forgot to put socks on the baby and now everyone at Target is staring me down because my child’s toes are going to freeze off. And so on, and so on, and so on. And then at the end of the day when they’re asleep, there’s dirty dishes from yesterday in the sink, a wet load of laundry that is hopefully not growing mold yet in the washer, and a living room littered with toys. Man, even that paragraph is a huge debbie downer . . .
So rather than focus on the negative, I’m trying to focus on the positive. The Food Snob suggested I keep a notebook and just jot down 10 positive things that happened that day. Some days, the list only includes breastfeeding and changing diapers, which don’t feel all that positive, but they are indeed very positive things that have to happen. It’s the small, seemingly insignificant things that are actually huge positives in our everyday lives. I think focusing on those, rather than all the things that could of been better is the best way to continue our journey of life as a family.
Tell me, how do you stay positive and encouraged?